Losing your hair sucks ...
Serial wig addict who has no intention of finding the road to recovery.
So, if you have ever met me or know me at all through the work that I do here at Aspire Hair then you may be thinking "what! you? negative? no way!" But yes it really is true!
Having a positive attitude about things like work, business and life in general has never been something that has come naturally to me.
I grew up in a world that always felt incredibly scary.
People scared me.
School scared me.
Having to say 'hello' to passing strangers or even family members like aunts and uncles made me feel this horrible knot of dread really deep down in my stomach and it made me feel sick.
I used to anticipate the moment I would have to respond to to another human being and practice the correct response over and over again in my head, damn near driving myself absolutely crackers during the process.
I had friends who were always the complete opposite of me.
They were chatty, happy, fun loving and care free.
I used to beat myself up and wonder why I wasn't like them.
WHAT WAS WRONG WITH ME!
Unfortunately for me, just as I was starting to feel just a little bit more comfortable in my own skin I developed alopecia. Perfect timing right?
I often wish I could go back in time and give the 12 year old version of myself a really good shake and then I really long and heartfelt hug.
Growing up I felt like I was the ONLY person in the world to be living with alopecia.
I didn't meet another person how had alopecia like me until I started my business in 2010.
Suddenly I realised that not only was I not the only one, but there were LOTS of women out there who were just like me.
It wasn't until I reached the age of 26 or so that I really started to feel more comfortable with myself and my hair loss.
Although I had dropped out of school, at age 14, I had always loved to read and this passion for reading has served me well in so many areas of my life.
I'm guessing that you love to read too otherwise why would you be here reading my blog!
Getting to know yourself
Reading personal development books and striving to get to know myself (and my own mind) better has helped me to develop the ability to look at the same situation from a few different perspectives and, honestly, it has transformed how I handle stress and anxiety in my life.
Here are a few examples of what I mean ...
Instead of thinking ' I'm bald and wear a wig ' I can re-phrase with something like this .... 'I've got alopecia and I choose to wear a wig and this makes me feel more like myself'
Instead of thinking ' Oh god, it's so warm today and I have to wear a wig' I re-phrase with 'OK, so it's pretty warm outside today so I can choose to wear my wig or a gorgeous piece of headwear'
Here is my (current) running list of positives when it comes to having alopecia and wearing a wig ...
- My hair always looks great because I don't have to sleep in it.
- I can take my hair off to shower.
- I only have to wash my hair every 7-10 days of wear (unless a bird poops on me ...)
- I can style the back of my hair perfectly!
- I can take my hair off to wash it and relax a little before having to blow dry it. Pass me that cuppa ...
- My hair colour doesn't fade as fast.
- I don't have to worry about the annoyance and expense of getting my roots done.
- I can style my hair on a care head.
- The back of my hair always looks great.
- When I get to warm in the Summer I can take my hair off to cool down.
- Too cold in the winter? I've got a built in hat with my wig.
- I don't have to shave my legs
- No stray brow hairs over here!
- My skin feels soft and silky because I am hair-less.
- I can change my look in a flash.
- I can try on different styles without having to commit to the new look.
What positives can you think off?
I'd love to hear your positives in the comments below :) You can even pop on over to our Facebook page and share over there!
Big hugs, Em xx